Hey baby girl, this little pocket of the internet is a safe space, come on in.

Being a teenager is heaps of fun: it's the time in your life when you get to discover who you are and explore new things. However, it's not all about perfecting your style or finding your friends-for-life: your teen years come with a lot of changes and new experiences that can feel super overwhelming. 

One of those brand new experiences is exploring your sexuality. At school, we all learned about the birds and the bees, the 'mechanics' of sex. It usually went something along the lines of explaining that 'Man + Woman + Ejaculation = Baby' and you were deemed ready to head out into the world, condoms in hand, ready for action.

"When you think of sex and the internet, usually one thing comes to mind: Porn. But you're smarter than that, you know that porn is designed to induce arousal and is in no way indicative of how sex works 'in the real world'."

We want to be here for you, like your older sister or BFF and point you in the direction of some safe resources where you can get the information you need. 

Before I leave you with these dos and don'ts, I want you to remember that your body belongs to you: make sure you're 100% comfortable in a situation before you go ahead with any sexual activity. It's never too late to change your mind or to stop and never let anyone pressure you into being sexually active, even if you believe they're your friend (p.s. if your friend is pressuring you to have sex, they're not your friend). 

It's also important to remember that sex is supposed to be enjoyable. When you are eventually ready to have sex, don't waste your time worrying about what your body looks like, or wether you're doing everything right. Truth is, there is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to sex and part of the experience is experimenting to find what works for you and your partner. Remember, you got this.

Hunter Markets x 

 

 Do's:

-Learn from safe online resources, such as:

https://amaze.org/

https://sexetc.org/

http://www.iwannaknow.org/

https://www.scarleteen.com/

https://www.keepitrealonline.govt.nz/youth/

-Talk to an older sibling, cousin or parent, they have experienced these things and have your best interests in mind.

-Be mindful that the 'airbrushed' version of sex you see in film and on TV is not an accurate depiction of how it goes down. 

-Talk to a Gynocologist, or even just follow one on TikTok! @nicolealiciamd and @dr.staci.t are some of our faves.

 

Don'ts:

-Learn about sex and sexual activity from porn.

-Take your mate's word as bible, experiences differ and just because they've had a particular experience, doesn't mean you have to. 

 

Written by Ellen Walker @ellenwalker1 

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